All The Guys Who Left Me And The Crazy Excuses They Gave For Leaving

I didn’t date early. I was 22 years when I met Nonso. He was a great guy who knew how to treat a lady. He knew what to say to get a yes from me and he knew what to do to make me want him more.

We agreed not to have sex until we get married but somehow our emotions got the best of us and it happened. He told me; “You don’t have to worry about losing your virginity to me. I’m your man for life and this is going to prove how much you love me.” I thought, “If that is to prove to you that I love you, why not?”

A year or two later, after I’ve built my hopes and dreams around him, he left me. I saw it coming. I asked questions. He kept assuring me that everything was alright and love would find a way. Love never did. He jilted me. 

He told me times without number, “You are a good girl and you deserve someone better than me. Someone who has a better future than I do.” I told him, “I’m not complaining about who you are and I’ve never asked you to change who you are. You are enough for me and I’m content.”

Nothing I said could change anything. He got cold. He gave me the silent treatment and eventually avoided me totally. My only mistake was being a good girl.

Ike was the next guy to approach me. He was a friend and later expressed interest in me. I told him about Nonso and how he left me because I was a good girl. “He’s a loser, don’t mind him,” he said. “But I’m glad he left. It’s the plan of the universe for us to be together that’s why Nonso couldn’t stay.”

I liked Ike for his mind. He was a clever boy who had answers to every question bothering my mind. Plus, he had a good job and better future looking at the way he spoke about his future plans. We started dating.

He was awesome from the word go and looked like someone who could never do anything wrong. Even though being a good girl cost me the previous relationship I had no option than to be a good girl again. Ike deserved me at my best and I gave him my all.

One Christmas, he took me to see his family. His mum was sweet to me and his dad tried to be his dad. Something strange started happening after the visit…

Ike started missing my calls and never called back. When I finally got him, he gave me work-related excuses, “It’s been hectic at the office and I barely could get enough space to breathe.” “It’s a phase,” I told myself.

But this phase lingered until I decided enough was enough. I confronted him one evening and asked him why the change. He answered, “Dad doesn’t think both of us could make it together. I mean he’s not a fan of your tribe and insists I shouldn’t marry  from such tribe.”

I spent two years with a man just so I would be disqualified based on my tribe? Something I had no say in choosing? I told him to allow me to see his father but he said no. He believed seeing the father would worsen the case so in short, he said, “I’m sorry it had to end this way. I don’t want to waste your time any further. You’re a good girl. Sooner or later, the right man will find you.”

“Good girl,” That’s all I got but unfortunately, eno bi good girl I go chop.

I moved on.

Then Emma came. He left because he found someone new. There was Josh. He left because I didn’t want to give him sex. And then there was Nkem. That boy had words. He could lie for Nigeria, I swear! Nkem would look into my soul and lie to me and then he’ll look at my face and say, “Trust me, I’m telling you the truth.”  I liked his charisma but before I could fall for him, his girlfriend found out about us and attacked us. 

Just when I’d given up on love, Ade came into the picture. He was a doctor I consulted when I went to the hospital. He was extra careful with me and went into details of what was wrong with me so he could get the right diagnosis. When I was leaving his office, he gave me his number and asked me to call just in case I reacted negatively to the drugs he gave me.

I didn’t react but rather got well in no time so I didn’t call him. And then some months later, I had to visit the hospital again so I called to book an appointment with him. The sickness got the better of me but he called to check on me and gave me other prescriptions until I was well. We became friends and later started dating. 

It was so easy for me to date him because he made things easier. A year together and things got better each passing day. He proposed that we start making plans for marriage. We planned and even made timelines. “If everything goes well, we would have a traditional wedding in a year from now and continued with the white wedding.” He said.

From then on, my mind was marriage marriage marriage. I was thirty and I believed that was the time.

And then changes happened!

He didn’t call me like he used to. He didn’t pick my calls as he used to and he didn’t see me as often as he used to. But through it all, I made sure I was there for him, not to give him pressure but to be there and at the same time give him the space he needed. He told me his job was getting hectic. Some doctors had gone on leave and as such he was handling more cases than he used to.

Through it all, I was the one calling and checking up on him. Sometimes he would pick and sometimes he would not. One day I decided not to call until he calls. One, two, three, four days went by but Ade never called. That was when I realized it was deeper than just job being hectic.

I went to wait in his house all day till he returned from work late in the evening. I told him, “Ade, we need to talk. It’s been four days already and you seem not to care. What is going on?” We were getting close to the date we planned to get married but I never mentioned it. I wanted to know the demons he’s battling with first 

He said; “I’ve hidden something from you and I believe you ought to know. I’m sterile. I can’t make a woman pregnant. I’ve traveled and sought the best of medical care but conditions haven’t improved. I don’t want to get you into this hoping it would be well and then it doesn’t. I know you won’t forgive me. So please, if you can wait while I find a cure, fine, but if you think you can’t wait, kindly find another man.”

“You can’t give bele? But we’ve been doing the thing all this time and you do it so well so why can’t you give bele?” I queried. “I can do the thing but it can’t result into pregnancy,” he answered. So I said, “Ok, if there is a cure then don’t worry, let’s find the cure together.” He said no because he’s not sure how long it was going to take before he got cured. Then he dropped the classical line; “You are a good girl, you deserve better than this. You deserve to have a family but it can’t be possible with me.” 

Nothing I said could change Adedayo’s mind. So it ended there just like how the others ended.

Six months later, Ade got married to another woman who returned from abroad. Today, they have three kids together. Ade, whose something can’t make babies now have three kids.

A year or so after his wedding, he called me trying to make amends. I was nice to him and told him he shouldn’t worry about me. From then on he called almost everyday proposing outing and hangouts. I obliged and one night at a table he tried flirting with me; “I’m sorry how things turned out but you are the one I truly love and blah blah blah. I got the point. He wanted me as his side chick. I shook my head and left him there at the table.

Nonso wanted me back when I was dating Ike. He persisted like I was all he needed to survive. Ike wanted a come-back too when I was dating Emma or Nkem, I’ve forgotten. At some point, Emma wanted to also come back and make things right. All of them. Each one of them left me and later wanted a comeback. Surprisingly, it was only when you had moved on and enjoying life again that they wanted to come back.

So I ask, why do men leave only to return again at some point in time? They leave a bad girl and they leave a good girl. They leave those they sleep with and they leave those who wouldn’t allow them to sleep with them, they leave their tribeswomen and they leave the women of other tribes. When they want to leave, every reason is just a reason enough for them to leave.

But I’m happy about one thing; they left not because I was bad for them. They left just because they want to. Through it all, I’ve learned that men themselves don’t know what will make them stay until they find what looks like something that can make them stay. And when they do stay, they usually look back and realize what they are missing and wish they could have a bite.

But hey men, you can’t eat your cake and still have it!

Ifeanyi Joachin Nwafor And His Indian Wife Arrested For Fraud In India

A Nigerian ex-footballer, who is a former State-level football player, and his Indian wife were arrested on Monday in India for duping people on the pretext of custom clearance for gifts sent by them, the police said on Wednesday, Times of India reports.

They have duped a social worker, the police said.

Deputy Commissioner of Police (Dwarka) Anto Alphonse said that the accused, identified as Ifeanyi Joachin Nwafor, who has played for three State-level teams in Chennai and Kerala, and his wife were arrested from Dabri on Monday.

The police said that the social worker, who runs an NGO, approached them and said that one George Moor, a UK-based man, had requested her to accept gifts for the poor in India.

She said she then got a call from a woman, who claimed that she was from the Customs Department and that the complainant would have to pay money to receive the gifts. The victim paid over ₹1 lakh on two occasions. She, however, got suspicious after more money was demanded.

After she approached the police, an investigation was taken up and bank account details were sought. The CCTV footage of the ATMs from where the deposited money was withdrawn were also scanned, after which the accused were arrested.

“During interrogation, it was found that Nwafor is from Nigeria. In 2009, he had come to India on a business visa. In 2012, he came in contact with the woman [his co-accused] through Facebook, who is from Assam. They later started living together in Delhi and eventually got married,” Mr. Alphonse said.

The police said that Nwafor made several fake Facebook accounts approach people through the social media. After taking them into confidence, he used to tell them about sending precious gifts for them. His wife used to pose as Customs officer and call them, they said.

The police claimed to have recovered over ₹6 lakh that they had collected by from different people by cheating them.

Mobile phones, jewellery, laptops among other articles have also been seized, the police further said.

Delta Thief Tries To Have Sex With Victim While She Was Sleeping. This Happened

A man identified as Julius was almost beaten to death by the mob after he was caught trying to have sex with the lady she went to rob at her home in Delta state.

According to reports, the lady who left her door opened was sleeping when the thief entered her room to steal her phone narrated that in her sleep, she felt it that someone is romancing her, which makes her to wake up from her sleep while she started shouting thief.

It was learnt that as the thief ran out of her room and was about to escape through Azigbo lane, he was caught and beaten by mobs who ran after him after the lady shout for help.

It was gathered that the victim (who wore red singlet) in the attached picture was sick and slept off after taking the drugs that were prescribed for her by a doctor but was unfortunate to being woken up due to the romance by the thief who tried to steal her phone.

Some people on Facebook who claim to know the said thief are saying he is mentally unstable, this claim is yet to be verified.

My Wife Is cheating, I confronted her and she called me a wife beater

I found out my wife had been unfaithful from the beginning of our relationship.  When I questioned her about my suspicions throughout our relationship she told me I’m too sensitive and insecure. 
Her mother did the same.  When I confronted her she began to scream and yell "stop hitting me, I can’t believe you hit me" and she even threw herself on the floor. 
She is now going around tarnishing my name.  One of her closest friends contacted me because she felt bad about the situation and told me to be careful because she had done the same thing to an ex. 
What should I do?!

Female Nigerian-Born US Soldier Teaches Other Female Soldiers Nigerian Dance

The video which has since gone viral, shows a female Nigerian soldier serving in the US Army teaching her fellow female soldiers some Nigerian dance moves. 

wizkid” Promises 5 Fans A Special Weekend With Him In Dubai

Wizkid just announced Via his Instagram page that he is set to perform at the One Africa Music Fest Dubai coming up on the 16th of November 2018.

While sharing the information he also said 5 of his fans get a sponsored special weekend with him to the show. He also promised to share the details of how to be one the five lucky fans soon.

His word:

One Africa Dubai! This one special! 5 Wizkid fans get to fly with me for a special weeknd! All sponsored by da Mob!  cc @pauloo2104 !! Info soon ?? #OneAfricaMusicFest #Starboy

Ramsey Nouah Reacts To Genevieve Nnaji's 'Lionheart' Movie

Nollywood Actor, Ramsey Nouah took to his IG page to congratulate and celebrate Genevieve Nnaji after she made her directorial debut with the movie 'LionHeart' which was later acquired by Netflix and premiered during 2018 Toronto International Film Festival at TIFF Bell Lightbox yesterday, September 8, 2018, in Toronto, Canada.

He wrote:

'My girl is killing it @genevievennaji ..a must watch flick. A film that resonates our culture and people. Don't stop making a difference hun. We believe in you