I lost my virginity to her last month.

Good morning, unusual matter. I am a lesbian. I found out 3 years ago. When I kissed a boy. Now I have a girlfriend and I love her.

I lost my virginity to her last month. She's South African. But we are both students in UK. My issue now is this Joro. I want to to tell my parents about her. I love her so much. She is a perfect human.

She makes me closer to God. I haven't missed a church service since 2018. Her parents have accepted me. How do I tell my own parents about her. I don't know how to.

I'm 21 years old. I know what love and life is. I am really scared they will remove me and put me in a private school in Nigeria. Is it necessary I tell them? Or do I keep it to myself ?

Is this disrespectful? My girlfriend masturbates after sex. I give her head for 20 minutes..

Some guys are just so funny and jobless! Yes! you are the problem, how can u give head for 20mins, Are u possessed?

Is this disrespect? Joro. When my girlfriend and I have sex, she will ask me if she can masturbate after I finish. This thing mess with my ego.

I will be planning to please her. I will do 25 minutes on bed, give head, suck breast. All this is not enough. I can give head for 20 minutes.

Me I can't keep up at this rate. But is the masturbatin part disrespectful? Me I don't understand at all. What do you think ?

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My love for my baby is reducing because of my husband. In my heart of hearts Joro I love my husband more than my baby

Hello Joro, I'm losing my husband. Good morning. Reading ur post. Thinking. My husband has refused to have sex with me after child birth.

He doesn't come near or initiate sex. He says he doesn't like my stretch marks. Joro I can't walk naked in the room. My husband look at me like am dirt or trash.

He tries not to touch me if I bed him for the sex. Only his dick make contact. Since child birth sex only twice joro. I put to bed in January.

Sometimes am not happy with my baby. I drop her with my mother. I blame my baby for this in my marriage. Before my husband beg me for sex. I am In pained.
I know he has girlfriend but I can't even say anything.

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After child birth stretch mark all over her body

I wonder how someone would cheat on his/her partner and are yet not remorseful. How could a man get his wife pregnant, she gives birth, then birth reactions takes a toll on her body then you feel irritated?

Please read;

"Have been having sex outside and am happy. Today is my wife birthday . Joro try to have s3x with her. Kobayo.

We are not intimate since February. After child birth stretch mark all over her body. Am not more interested. Today is her birthday. I have no Choice but to try. The whole bed smelling of sweat.

Her va**gna look one kind rough. After child bearing she is not the same girl anymore. Not happy as I am. Have to masturbate the remaining sperm out. At my age masturbate


I was a student 19 years old. My mother made me sleep with her boyfriend then who was a married man

My mother is so evil but I love her
Hello Joro, Love your blog. Wish you well.
This is not a relationship issue. I just want to share something bothering my heart to you and your fans. I am feeling empty. I have cried and cried. I am hurt.

I am proud of my past. I thank God I found a man to love me. Joro Years ago while I was a student 19 years old. My mother made me sleep with her boyfriend then who was a married man.

Joro Years ago while I was a student 19 years old. My mother made me sleep with her boyfriend then who was a married man. Our father is late. So my mom is a single mom. She did her best to put food on the table and send us to school but somethings she did Joro I don't understand if she's evil or devil sent .

She made me sleep with this man. She kept taking me there and asking me to wear short skirt. 1 day She took me to his house and left me there. She said I should upset that man that his money is feeding us. This man disvirgin me. The sex was so good, he was like a father and boyfriend. He would beat me when I failed a curse and buy me blackberry and stuffs.

Joro I slept with this man for 6 years. It was my first and only relationship before I met my husband. My mother stood in my way whilst dating my husband. It's funny how this man wanted me to marry and my mother didn't.
All through my University level. I later feel In love In with him. Although He continued sleeping with my mother too so I got jealous atimes but I still loved him. He wanted a threesome so badly but that I rejected it.

Living with my mom was awkward. He was my first. He was nice to me. He made me who I am today. Joro I vowed to myself that my younger sister will never go through this. Sell her body for money or benefits. I am married now. I live with my husband. He is God sent. Last week I saw on my little sister WhatsApp story that she want to see this man.

She was sitting on his laps. Tears started running through my eyes Joro. I quickly called my little sister. She is 17 years old. She is even more beautiful than I was. This man is 69 years old. 70 next year December. I told my sister she should move in with me and my husband. I didn't give her much information. My mom called me and started cursing me that I'm ungrateful and I shouldn't parent her own daughter.


From Deep Inside My Heart, I Wish You Well…I Really Do

by Silentbeads
I and Johnson were very good friends when we were in school. Many thought he was my boyfriend but we were just friends and loved being in each other’s company. After school, life took us to different paths and slowly we lost contact. I went abroad to pursue a different dream. Five years later I was back.

Through Facebook, I re-established contact with Johnson. We met for the first time at a bar where we spoke about life in general and what we’ve been up to after all these years. Johnson had a problem. He had relationship problems. He said; “She’s everything I wanted in a woman and I thought she loved me too but she fell in love with another man—another man who’s doing better in life than me. They are together now and she sends me hi sometimes.”

I’ve had issues with relationships too. Mine was about guys who wouldn’t be truthful with me. They loved me today and tomorrow they love me not. I shared my story with Johnson too. We laughed over it and drunk to it. We kept meeting and picking things up from where we left them while in school. Somehow, we got attracted to each other and started a relationship.

Everything was good. We’ve been friends for long so we knew each other. Though the relationship bit was a new dimension we were exploring, we were not scared to be ourselves and love the way we want to love. We stayed very close sharing everything but one problem never seemed to go away—Johnson’s ex-girlfriend.

He kept in touch with her and they spoke very often. He was frank about it. He told me things he discussed with his ex and even showed me their WhatsApp chat once in a while. He made me read a chat where he told the ex about me and her response was; “She better take good care of you,” and I thought that was cool.

One day, Johnson told me her ex had been jilted by her rich boyfriend and she was totally broken. I started sensing a distance in our relationship. He was mostly absent minded when we were talking or would switch off all of a sudden. And then he left me. I saw it coming but I was too in love to sense the danger. Again, he didn’t hide it. He was frank about the whole affair. He said, “We got back together. She needed me and I think I and her deserve a second chance.”

He didn’t consider my emotions. He was simply selfish and cold about the whole thing. I loved him and saw a future with him but unfortunately, he didn’t see it that way. He left and I went on with my life.

We seldomly kept in touch but then I saw his call at one late night. He said, “It didn’t work out again. She left.” I told him, “It’s been only six months since you guy got back together?” He responded, “Yeah, she’s simply not a girl I can keep. I know she found herself another rich man. She used me.” He was almost in tears and I got broken for him.

Long and short of it all, I and Johnson got back together. I know! I know! You’re insulting me in your head. You’re probably calling me stupid and I understand. I should have hated him the way he treated me and for the fact that he left for her ex. I and Johnson go a long way back and I felt if someone would save him, It was me. So I gave him a shoulder to cry on and later offered him my chest to lie on.

I knew he’d learned a lesson. I knew twice was enough to teach him that he couldn’t tame that girl. I was convinced he had learned a lesson and wouldn’t do anything stupid in the second chance I was offering. So we started once again from where we left off but this time we made rules; “No more getting in touch with your ex. No more talking to her and no more seeing her.” He said yes to all that.

We spent a year and a half together in total bliss. We made plans and fulfilled a lot of goals. We drew out plans for the ultimate steps to the altar and started working towards that until he told me; “I’m not too settled in my mind and it makes the whole thing difficult for me. You are happy about us and our progress but it’s not like that with me.”

I told him, “Johnson be frank with me. I’ve seen too many bullshit and this wouldn’t be a problem for me to handle. Is it about your ex?” He answered no. But his posture and looks didn’t support his answer. “Is it about your ex?” He answered again, “No.” I repeated, “Is it about your ex?” He took a long breath in and exhaled loudly. He didn’t have to say anything again. I knew it was about the ex. I told him; “I wish you well. I really do and I hope it works out this time.”

I went home, I cried my stupid tears and put my stupid self to sleep and told my stupid heart to break some more. I deserved everything.

People who are scared to be left behind hurriedly hold hands with the one they are walking with so I wasn’t surprised when I saw pre-wedding photos of Johnson and her girl. It was only six months or so and they were getting married. I didn’t attend the wedding but from the photos and videos that were splashed on social media, I knew it was a happy day for both of them. And again, I wished them well in my heart.

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It’s been eighteen months since Johnson’s drama. A week ago, at lunch with a guy who was trying to woo me, my phone beeped. It was a message. I checked. It was a message from Johnson; “She’s asking for a divorce!” Five or so minutes later, he followed it up with a call. I waited till the call ended and put the phone off. I looked at the face of this guy in front of me and how hard he was trying to make me see he was the one made for me.

I told him, “I’m a girl who had been through a lot in love already. I will say yes to you today. I will be your girlfriend. Please don’t hurt me.”

In the evening, I called Johnson back. He couldn’t hold himself together. He cried as he was telling me what he’d been through since they got married. I only listened. I wished I could say something to console him but words didn’t come easily. After everything, I told him, “I wish you well. I still do.”

—Ellen, Ghana

My husband sudden love for my anal

My husband sudden love for my anal

Hello Joro, Good evening. My husband has started something recently. He likes plugging his finger into my anal. I'm sleeping like this. Gbam his finger will enter. I'm cooking.

Gbam his finger will anal. During sex. Gbam his finger In my anal. He doesn't like washing it. Sometimes I will catch him smelling it. He started this in April this year.

I am tired. Joro what do you think made him start it ? I don't want him to make him unhappy. He seems happy now and hardly even goods out.