I am 24 years old and my boyfriend is 30. We have been dating for 2years. He’s been working since I was in school, I only just recently graduated. The problem is, my boyfriend has never offered to help financially and I have never asked either.
I’ve been advised to maybe try asking but I am independent, shy and have my own level of pride. It is so bad that even during graduation, birthdays, etc, he says nothing.
He does love me a lot and we are planning to get married soonest… But I cannot marry that. He keeps saying he wants to give his family the best but can’t give his future wife anything. Anytime I complain of being broke or needing something, he goes “ehyaa, pele, ask daddy.” It pisses me off because I know he isn’t broke; his family is well-to-do too. Please I need your help.
Oh! Lest i forget… I don’t know any of his family members although he has finally invited me to come see his family early next year when he returns (he stays abroad).
Thank you so much, I love your work and hope to hear from you soonest.
First I must commend you for hanging in there this long. You must really love the guy. However, it’s a gamble. You say you’re sure he loves you and I’m wondering how you can be so sure under the circumstances. As far as I know, there is no love without giving. Even God had to “give” his son as a demonstration of His Love. So if he’s not giving gifts and coming to your aid in times of need (even when he can afford it), what’s he giving?