I dated my ex boyfriend for four years but he refused to marry me. The first two years,he kept telling me to be patient that he still had things to put in place before thinking of marriage. I was patient with him until the fourth year when I couldn’t take it any longer.
I told him to marry me or I leave. That was when he told me he had no plans to marry me cos of the age difference between us.
You see,I am seven years older than him. He didn’t mind that when we started to date. So I was quite shocked that was his reason for refusing to marry me. I asked him why he deceived me for so long,why didn’t he break up earlier,he said he liked the sx. So apparently,he was just with me for the sx,nothing more. I felt so hurt and I left him.
Since I broke up with him,its been almost two years. He has moved on to another woman. They got married within months. Their marriage was not up to one year before my ex started to disturb me for s*x.
He came back saying I am the best he ever had and he cant stay away from me. I initially fought him off but not for long because,I still loved him and I was not seeing anyone.We got back together and I fell heavily for him. He used to tell me how much he thinks about me when he is with his wife. He said he was a coward for letting me go and he regrets marrying his wife.
Most times I felt bad cos I knew I was cheating with a married man but I asked God for my own,and He is yet to answer me. I am not a small girl,I have needs and its like no serious guy is coming for me so far. I still felt bad all the same so I decided to end it for real this time. Its as if God heard my prayer.
I met a guy immediately I broke off with my ex. I started seeing someone who genuinely took interest in me. But two weeks after,I discovered I was pregnant. It was definitely for my ex. I had only slept with this new guy once and it was with protection. I am confused on whether to tell my ex or not.
I have always wanted to get pregnant cos at 43,I was always wishing I had a child. I am getting older and I dont have a steady relationship not to talk of husband. I was overjoyed at the idea I finally was able to get pregnant. But I don’t know how my new guy will react if I tell him its not his. I suspect he will end things with me. So I am going to have to claim that the pregnancy is his. I would have to act fast before I start showing. I would have to convince him to stop using protection when we meet from now on. On the other hand,I wonder if I should tell my ex. I truly love him and I know he still wants me but he is stuck with his new wife.
What do you think I should do? Do you think that if I told my ex about the baby,he would probably leave his wife for me? Maybe not? Should I just forget about my ex and pin the pregnancy on my new man? I cannot afford to loose either of the men,who do I go for,my ex or my new man?
Your candid advice please. If you post this,I will accept any comments from the readers.
I am not proud of how I got to this place but all I want is true advise to help me make the best choice.