Your life changes into a new phase the moment you make the decision to get married. Married life comes with its own advantages and disadvantages.
I am not going to dwell on the pros and cons of marriage. But I need you to know that marriage requires a lot of sacrifices from both parties involved. And that the benefits are far higher than the disadvantages.
My concern in this article is to highlight 3 important and critical steps that are necessary when moving from bachelorhood to marriage life.
Trust me, there are a lot of steps involved in the process of getting married but I have put together in this article three fundamental steps that are crucial and necessary.
3 Fundamental Steps for Getting Married for Bachelors
#1. Move out of your parents’ house
This is a brutal fact that shouldn’t be polished. You should consider moving out of your parents’ or family house the very moment you decide to get married.
Starting your own family require that you should have some basic home appliances. Ranging from furniture, kitchen utensils and other basic items.
From experience, staying with your parents have a way of discouraging you from buying personal properties needed to start life.
The financial burden being placed on you by your family can be overbearing especially when you are staying with them. Sometimes they depend solely on you that they may not want to engage themselves in any money making venture simply because they know that you are always there to provide their needs.
Staying alone also help you to know your true financial capabilities. It helps you to know if you can be able to bring in someone into your life and at the same time pay the person’s bills.
#2. Prepare yourself
Never make the mistake of dabbling into marriage with any form of preparation. I am sure that you wouldn’t want to call it a quit after a few months of getting married.
Getting married requires some level of preparations. It could be emotionally, spiritually and even financially.
Read books or consult marriage counsellors to help guide you make the right decisions ahead of marriage.
I recommend you read this book: Things I wish I’d Known Before We Got Married by Gary Chapman.
#3. Start a relationship
Gone are those days when out of nowhere our parents will just spring up with a woman for us to marry. Nowadays, we make our choices and we live with it whether good or bad.
Being in a relationship gives you the opportunity to get to know the person before making the decision to settle down with the woman or not.
I know that we have to work hard to make ourselves financially capable to handle marriage expenditures. But we shouldn’t get so busy to the extent that there wouldn’t be time to get to meet and know the right life partner.
The long and short is that having a relationship avails you the window to evaluate your compatibility with your future partner if carefully utilized.
Lastly, never go into a relationship with a woman with the hope of marrying her. Instead, start off with an open mind.
Having an open mind will help you to see both the good and bad side of her and guide you into making an unbiased decision.