Dear Ross T, I lost my wife to poverty, being broke led to divorce and cost me my marriage, and that’s putting it simply. Ok, so here’s the thing. First if all, I made the mistake of marrying someone above my league. I mean, I love her but my love wasn’t enough for her, she wanted the very things I couldn’t afford.
 I was under pressure to get settled and start a family because my younger brothers were married, my parents were wondering what was stopping me, being the elder one from doing same. I wanted a happy and peaceful home. I met this lady, and after several months of being together, I decided to marry her. She is a beauty to behold and I felt we loved each other enough to make the lifetime decision. She knew I was broke but was ready to support me, my dreams and business, She was from a wealthy home and came from a comfortable background where she never lacked.
We thought together we could build on what we have and be happy. From the onset of the marriage, she was the one spending and I even borrowed money from her during our traditional wedding and couldn’t even pay back. That was the start of our issues. Barely some months into our marriage, my wife packed her things and left the house while I was away. I got back from the day’s hustle to find out what she’s done and went in search of her at her parent’s. On getting there, I was given a cold welcome by my wife’s family who really didn’t support our marriage.
I saw my wife and begged her to come back.  She refused, saying that she wasn’t used to the wretched life I wanted her to live and that being with me has yielded no good for her. After few times of going back to beg her, she finally yielded and came back home.
 Days later, I noticed some changes in her. She would spend more time chatting and making calls on her phone to unknown persons and whenever I ask her who it was or point out the fact that she was neglecting her duties as a wife to me, she’d make an argument out of it and storm out of the house leaving me for days.
Four good times, she did this. It was almost like she married me out of pity and would only come back after series of begging. One time, she loaned me 700k to put in a business with hope that it would yield fruit. At , the same time she was pregnant and asked that we move to a more comfortable apartment which I wasn’t in support of as I couldn’t afford the rent of a bigger place. Due to constant pressure from her, I eventually rented an apartment she approved of which cost 650k. All I had was the money she loaned me to start a business, so I used the money to pay the rent.
 Then she put to bed and I had to borrow heavily to pay bills, housekeeping and even make her mum who came for omugwo comfortable during the period of her stay. Even with all my efforts, my wife wasn’t pleased with me, she would nag and complain about any slight difficulty we had. She even accused me of sending her mum away by not giving her the comfort she was accustomed to. Despite knowing my predicament, she would complain and would try to help manage the little I could provide. Every passing day with me was like a punishment to her.
Having sex with me was a no go area for her. It was though I disgusted her. I begged to have sex with my wife and most times, she’d decline saying we were broke and sex shouldn’t be on my mind in that kind of situation. We only had one child and it was as though our marriage was old and stale. I know she regretted marrying me, so I wasn’t surprised to find divorce papers in her possession one day while looking for something amongst her belongings. I confronted her about it and wished I didn’t, she told me worst things anyone could say to a man.
She referred to me as the biggest mistake of her life and a failure. I believed her. After all, what kind of man can’t even provide for his home. She eventually left me some months later taking my son with her and would only allow me see him when she pleases. I know it would have been a different story if I were a rich dude with cash to splash. she is still unmarried and I know she loves me.
I am working on myself and my business and things are going much better for me. I am hoping to be in a position to remarry her again. What would I have done differently, I would have waited till I was financially better off or married someone else.

Please don’t marry if you are not financially capable.


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