My fiancee confided in me two days ago that she had an incest relationship with her cousin yrs back. She said she told me cos she loves me and wouldn't want to hide anything from me. I love her too and still want to marry her but I am devastated by the news
She said she has fasted and asked God for forgiveness.
I have prayed on her behalf too severally,
I am supposed to come to Nigeria for our wedding next month . pls help nairalanders. I feel so pained. I need wise counsel
I'm just scared of the spiritual aspect like curses or something besides I know I will never have any good relationship with that cousin of hers.
If I were in your shoes, I would be devastated as well.. It doesn't matter whether she confessed or I discovered myself.. the knowledge of what happened is all it takes to get one pained, so don't feel stu p!d or heartless.
Now to the real issue, I think you're worried that the said relationship with her cousin might continue even after a proper wedding with you. Whether you like it or not, you would henceforth feel insecure to have that cousin close and alone with your woman. Nobody welcomes such, except of course, the online "e-doesn't matter" e-pocrites.
The big question is: do you love your woman? Yes, right? Love is one aspect, do you trust your woman? Note, anybody can love, but trust is expensive. You have to be sure you trust her 100%.
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Having said that, it's time to get your mind off the relationship with her cousin. It would be difficult but you have to try.