My therapist, who has heard plenty about these patterns, says it’s a waste of time to be judge-y, and because 1. I pay for that advice and 2. this seems to not just be a “me” problem, I decided to take it to heart and come up with a list of things that we all really need to get over.
1. How quickly or slowly they respond to texts. Texting time windows are a conspiracy theory concocted to distract us from figuring out where the aliens really are.
2. How “good” or “bad” they are at texting. I’ve had witty text exchanges with people who turned out to have the personality of shredded wheat. Conversely, I’ve texted with people from the latter category who ended up having the personality of a rainbow bagel with funfetti cream cheese. You never know.
3. Any pictures that they didn’t offer up on Tinder or over text. Yes, I know you’re a CIA-level sleuth who can uncover a duck-faced selfie from a tucked-away Facebook album of yore, but a pic of them sporting two layered Lacoste polos says nothing other than that this person participated in trends of the time. [Ed note: if you find offensive pictures, like ones of them dressed in blackface, then yes, please judge away and feel free to cancel.]
4. Their name. Yes, it may be stupid or spelled strangely, but that’s the parents’ fault, not theirs.
5. Their job. Stop being elitist.
6. Their college (or lack thereof). Stop being elitist.
7. That they don’t laugh at all of your jokes. This is hard, because obviously you have a natural gift, but maybe they don’t know how to read your sense of humor yet. Give it a breath, like you..https://swipelife.tinder.com/post/non-judgemental?utm_source=email&utm_campaign=11%2F26